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What to expect when you’re not expecting XXII: Expecting?

What to expect when you’re not expecting XXII: Expecting?

Jesus, this is post number 22. That’s a lot of my dribble. Well mainly my dribble, some of it has been Kim’s pearls of wisdom. I’ve said this a lot but way back when we started writing we did it to help others.

by × December 12, 2017 × 2 comments

Reviews

Comedy review: Louise Beuvink in Ladylike: a modern guide to etiquette

Comedy review: Louise Beuvink in Ladylike: a modern guide to etiquette

Whenever I write reviews of comedy shows I don’t feel it’s important to mention that someone is a female comedian (if they are); I guess that’s because I don’t feel it’s important to mention that the 75% of comedians I see are male

by × December 6, 2017 × 0 comments

Health

The first baby photo I've ever been able to take. It has my roundness.

What to expect when you’re not expecting XXI: One egg, two baskets

Boy it’s getting tense isn’t it? Saturday was transfer day, when the fertilised embryo we had was getting put back in to one of Kim’s uteri. We went in for our appointment. Kim had to drink 750ml of water immediately before-hand because apparently an enlarged bladder makes it easier for the doctor doing the transfer to see where to go on the scan.

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Health

What to expect when you’re not expecting XX: The stress and the excitement of it all

What to expect when you’re not expecting XX: The stress and the excitement of it all

On Monday we went in for egg harvesting. Last time we did that we managed to get 5 eggs out which isn’t a great result but we were very happy because we’d been expecting 3 max. This time we tried not to have expectations because of the 5 they got out last time, precisely zero fertilised. Which sucked.

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What to expect when you’re not expecting XIX: The mendacity of hope

What to expect when you’re not expecting XIX: The mendacity of hope

As I write this it’s 5.30pm on a Sunday afternoon. It’s the day before we do egg collection. It’s been 26 days since we began this IVF round. It’s been the most hopeful round so far. But hope can always betray you, and when it does it hurts more than if you’d just been pessimistic the whole time.

by × November 26, 2017 × 1 comment

Health

What to expect when you’re not expecting XVIII: The Sharps Container

What to expect when you’re not expecting XVIII: The Sharps Container

When you’ve made a commitment to writing out your story, and then that story ends up being way longer than you anticipated, you go searching for metaphors to represent what you’re going through because metaphors are one of the great pieces of human story telling.

by × November 20, 2017 × 1 comment

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What to expect when you’re not expecting XVII: it’s Fertility Week and I still don’t have a baby

What to expect when you’re not expecting XVII: it’s Fertility Week and I still don’t have a baby

A memory came up on my Facebook feed this morning. “Kim, we care about you and the memories that you make on Facebook. We thought that you’d like to look back on this post from 2 years ago”.

by × November 6, 2017 × 3 comments

Health

What to expect when you’re not expecting XVI: Where have ya been Dave?

What to expect when you’re not expecting XVI: Where have ya been Dave?

Two and a half months ago I had a shitty birthday when our most recent IVF round got called off. I wrote about that already. But the part I left out of the story was going to the vege market immediately after the IVF clinic.

by × October 13, 2017 × 2 comments

General

The Good Registry: because giving can be better

The Good Registry: because giving can be better

When Kim and I got married and we did the gift registry it was the most boring afternoon of my life. I walked around Kirks (RIP) for hours while she chose things.

by × October 5, 2017 × 0 comments

Politics

Hour of Power: A new podcast

Hour of Power: A new podcast

So in an effort to spread myself as far out into the internet as I can, I’m one third of a podcast with Morning Report’s Susie Ferguson and the Civilian’s Ben Uffindell.

by × September 20, 2017 × 0 comments

Reviews

Wellington on a Plate Preview: Gate to Plate

Wellington on a Plate Preview: Gate to Plate

We are pairing up with Wellington food icons, Wellingnoms, so you can get all the best images from their Instagram account and all the best words from here. Exciting times. 

by × July 31, 2017 × 0 comments

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What to expect when you’re not expecting XV: The Holiday

It seems I take about two days to mentally process things. After the shitter of all birthdays where we had been at the clinic on Sunday morning being told that Kim had the cyst on one ovary and that this fucked everything up and so we should can the round then and there, we got into the elevator and I actually burst out laughing.

by × July 28, 2017 × 4 comments

Politics, Rights

And we are living in a neolib world and I am a neolib girl

And we are living in a neolib world and I am a neolib girl

Do you know what the Phillips Curve is? I didn’t. I mean I knew the basics of its output, but I didn’t know it had a name. It’s the relationship between inflation and unemployment.

by × July 28, 2017 × 0 comments

Health

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What to expect when you’re not expecting XIV: Not such a happy birthday

Well that’s a bit shit. We had our first scan of this IVF round this morning. And now it’s our only scan of this round. The round has been called off. Happy birthday Dave!

by × July 23, 2017 × 3 comments

Health

What to expect when you’re not expecting XIII: It’s my birthday tomorrow

What to expect when you’re not expecting XIII: It’s my birthday tomorrow

Tomorrow is my 33rd birthday. It’s a bit of a nothing birthday. I like to measure birthdays in factors. The more factors in your birthday, the better the birthday. 33 doesn’t have many.

by × July 22, 2017 × 0 comments

Tech

#RumiPlaylist

#RumiPlaylist

Recently I got a playlist thing happening on Spotify. And it was a fun time. Now I’m running a regular update.

by × July 18, 2017 × 0 comments

Feminism, Health

I imagine all male Stuff commenters look like this

What to expect when you’re not expecting XII: Dicks are dicks

We’re back on. Today was day 0, Kim has begun taking a new pill that does some wizardry to try and get us a better outcome from this round of IVF.

by × July 7, 2017 × 1 comment

Health

What to expect when you’re not expecting XI: Next please

What to expect when you’re not expecting XI: Next please

When you think about IVF, you don’t tend to think about it in stages. IVF is the term we use when we talk about the process of getting a baby using science.

by × July 4, 2017 × 3 comments