Back to hopeful again. Boy. We had our follow up appointment with the specialist to find out what the hell happened and why we had the unforgivingly named “total fertilisation failure”.
There’s this amazing web comic floating around that talks about the mental load that women are often asked to bear when it comes to household chores.
So I had it reported back to me that the last post was really sad. And I was sad. Just to get this out of the way early and prepare any readers still with us, things haven’t improved.
If we go back a few years, when Kim and I thought that we’d be popping out children like we saw most of our friends were, we’d see Kim and me slowly accruing stuff that a baby would need.
Christ this is some rollercoaster. It’s way more exciting than the rollercoaster they had at that Footrot Flats themed park that used to exist in Auckland. That was the first rollercoaster I ever went on.
Kim and I have discussed a lot whether this is our second round of IVF or our first since we had to abort at such an early stage last time. Can you say abort when talking about IVF? I’m not sure.
So it’s been nearly two months since my last post. In that time we haven’t magically discovered a baby growing in the garden; so this isn’t the update where we all go wahey! Success!
So you might have read my piece, and/or Kim’s piece about our adventures through infertility. It’s been a hard road. And we had just started the next chapter which was a cycle of IVF.
If my doctor had sat me down when my husband and I decided to start trying for a baby and said “Kim, this is going to be a hard road and also you’ve got two vaginas”, I would have doubled over and laughed at the absurdity of it.
I’m not a huge fan of revealing too much personal information on a blog that is read by 10s of people but here we go, this is as personal as it gets. Also, this post may get super long. Sorry.
By Nicole Skews. This blog is an x-post from Coley’s blog which you can find at www.tangerina.co.nz
I’ve got a challenge for you – and before you decide to ignore me and go read some other intellectually stimulating blog, just give me a chance… I dare you to try a detox.
Part one of a series on Mental Health In New Zealand we aren’t very good at talking about mental illness. Or mental health.
What to expect when you’re not expecting X: The Great wall of Gyna 
What to expect when you’re not expecting IX: The Mental Load 
What to expect when you’re not expecting VIII: Having a break from Ms Ivy Eff’s wild ride 
What to expect when you’re not expecting VII: The baby room 
What to expect when you’re not expecting VI: Some good news for a change 
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